How to Spoil the Most Important Person this Valentine’s Day: Yourself

Someone reading this who doesn’t know me but assumes they do probably thinks I’m writing this because I’m lonely, or heartbroken, or a hater. However, those closest to me would say that couldn’t be further from the truth, and that I haven’t been this comfortable and in love with myself in years. How did I get to this place of comfortability and peace with myself? Well, just by prioritizing ME for once. The phrase “put yourself first” has such a negative and selfish connotation, when really it’s something that every single person should be doing. I am an only child of divorced parents and a pessimistic Virgo sun so you could say that I think about solitude a lot. No matter how much you think your parents, partner, friends, children have your back, at the end of the day, and I mean very end of the day, you are all you have. Ever since being slapped in the face by this realization, I have done everything in my power to learn how to make myself happy. If I want to stay in bed all day listening to podcasts or watching Disney+, I do exactly that! If I want to splurge on a shirt that I’ve been wanting and I know it will bring me joy, I do that, too! It’s different for everyone though and I wish that you explore what makes you your happiest, what you can do to make yourself smile, bring peace, and comfort. Once you know what you can do to make yourself comfortable with being alone, everything else falls into place. I believe there is nothing more important than knowing how to cheer yourself up without having to search for that validation elsewhere. If you are alone this Valentine’s Day, or any day, and are struggling with how to feel satisfied, here is a schedule on how to spoil yourself, to show your body and mind that you deserve being cared for and that you don’t need others to do so. 

Step 1: Sleep In

You deserve the rest. There is nothing better than waking up when your body naturally wants to. 

Step 2: Nourish

Your first meal will set the tone for the rest of the day so it must be amazing. One you wouldn’t normally eat but that is delicious and a special treat. Some examples could be M&M pancakes which are my favorite, Chocolate Chip Oatmeal, Crispy Bacon and Eggs, Fruit bowl with Cool Whip, whatever will get your body excited for the day. 

Step 3: Warm up

Do an activity that warms your body since it is probably still somewhat early. Maybe it’s a light yoga flow, listening to a podcast while doing laundry, or just sitting up in bed and watching a movie.

Step 4: Treat Yo Self

Sometimes I like to indulge myself…to be transparent, I am Tom Haverford and Donna Meagle level of Treat Yo Self. Valentine’s Day is a perfect day to spoil yourself. So here’s the message you’ve been waiting for: Buy that thing you wanted. Whether it’s a piece of jewelry, overpriced clothing item, fancy furniture, DO IT. Money comes and goes, but your happiness is forever!!!

Step 5: Shake it Out 

There is nothing that makes me feel better than an FP Dance Party of 1. Put on your headphones, volume up, and have yourself a tiiiimmmeeee! If you need a good pump up playlist, check this one out!

Step 6: The Wind Down

By now your day is more than halfway over. All that pampering has got you exhausted! To relax, I would suggest drawing a bubble bath with your favorite candle lit. For added relaxation, put on a face mask while you soak. If you are sans bathtub, try taking a hot shower, let’s be real it’s the same thing. 

Step 7: Bone Apple Teeth

For dinner, order your favorite meal! Not only are you saving yourself the time and pain of preparing food, but restaurants need support. And when I say your favorite meal, I mean the one that you dream about when you’re at your hungriest, the one you literally drool over. And of course, don’t forget to leave a 20% tip 🙂 

Step 8: Sugar Rush

I eat dessert every night after dinner but for Valentine’s day, I’m getting my all-time special dessert. I haven’t decided yet but it’s a tie between overpriced frozen yogurt with lots of toppings and a side of extra lactaid, or my classic VDay Baked by Melissa’s because they’re tiny so that means guilt-free!

Step 9: Flick and Jiggle

And last but definitely not least, the best way to end Valentine’s Day or your self-love day: pleasure YOURSELF. Have fun with yourself! Start that Dipsea free trial, try out a new toy, watch a new video, whatever you gotta do! Finding peace alone means being in tune with your body and that includes sexually!

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This is such a cliché but it really holds true, you cannot love anyone until you love yourself. So practice the art of self love every day, every week, whenever it is convenient for you. If you’re alone this Valentine’s Day, I hope I have motivated you to make it the first day of your journey on how to find satisfaction from yourself. Find out what your giving and receiving love languages are, how you like to be touched, how you want to be treated, and prepare yourself for love whenever that comes. I am by means no expert in love but I do know what I love and how I practice giving myself love so I feel secure alone. It takes time, but it’s a necessary lesson to have under your belt. Happy Valentine’s Day to you and your beautiful, strong, confident self, the only person who is truly worth spoiling and giving the world to!